This morning I unfriended someone on Facebook. It is someone who friended me years go, and someone I never see. (Some of you may not finish this blog before you go check and see if we are still friends on Facebook, bahahaha.) I almost sent them this message, but I was not sure if it would be helpful to them, so I did not send it. It would not be sent out of spite, but would send it out of love if they would receive it that way. Anyway, here it is:
I just want you to know why I unfriended you on facebook – you never wrote one encouraging thing on any of my posts. Any of my posts you felt the need to reply to only resulted in a snarky or cynical comment or a sarcastic smiley face from you. I can handle cynical, sarcastic, and snarky on occasion, but not if that is all you offer.
I only post this on my blog because you are disconnected from the situation and it may be helpful to you in a couple of ways. A.) Do not be that person and B.) Do not hesitate to unfriend a distant person who only drags you down with negativity. (This is not the advice I would give if it is a close friend or a family member).
I also post it because it leads me to this. This past Sunday someone missed church and I sent them the sermon. The sermon was on Jesus saying, “Whom the Son sets free is free indeed.” The person sent me a reply that it was a good sermon, but they prefer “convicting sermons”. (The sermon is 37 minutes and can be found here.) I prefer convicting sermons as well. But sometimes we need a word of encouragement. Do not get me wrong, when the Lord gives me convicting sermons they are given in love (given to me and then relayed by me in love). Convicting sermons are not bad news, they are good news. They are meant to help people turn from sin and lukewarmness and walk in the way that leads to life. When we are corrected in love, it is not a bad thing, but a good thing. But sometimes people take them in a negative way.
I am reminded that the only thing some people hear in their lives is negativity. Sometimes people need a hug. Sometimes people need a kind, encouraging word. Some moments are not the moments for rebuke.
I pray that you know the love of the Savior. Sometimes He corrects and it is hard for us, but He always loves. And I know He loves you. Do not allow others’ negativity to overshadow His great love for you. I pray you can say:
“I belong to my beloved and he belongs to me; he pastures his flock among the lilies.” ~ Song of Solomon 6:3